You know, sometimes it seems like I have a million-and-one things going on here on Blaq Vixen Beauty. At the moment, I have my How to Stay Feminine in Uniform series, my interviews with beauty editors and people that I admire in general, Skincare Sundays and many more series that I started last year. So yeah, that editorial calendar that I started at the beginning of this year is definitely going to come in handy once my mind shows down and I get more organized. But here is the begining of another series.
What makes this one different is that I've asked some of the beauty editors that have inspired me to guest post on Blaq Vixen Beauty. That way, not only do you get my knowledge, but they're knowledge as well. And besides, at a year and two months (or 14 months), Blaq Vixen Beauty is barely a year old. I'm still learning how to approach things like giveaways, sponsored posts, advertising, link exchanges, social media - stuff like that. I'm also learning how to develop a thick skin and not be so sensitive. That's one of my weaknesses. I get hurt easily and I'm always trying to please people.
However, several wonderful people on Twitter and by email, reminded me that I started my site for myself. Asking absolute strangers for their thoughts will always lead me to second guess myself and try, in vain, to please them. That's crazy. They're right. Why stress myself out when there are people out there that would love to see me fail? I'll be damned.
The inspiration for this series came after I read an article on a group that I belong to. One of the members took the time to write a basic article on how to approach PR firms for samples. While I was reading it, I could tell it was written for the beginner blogger who was unfamiliar with the pitching process. However, I still found it useful. Unfortunately, one of the members found it appropriate to come off as the "goddess of beauty blogging," like you couldn't tell her anything about running an online publication.
She said that she was the creator of a site (even posted a link), and that she's been reviewing products for over 12 years online. This is the kicker (at least to me). She downgraded the quality of the article, calling it "ok" and "elementary." She referred to writing, reviewing and obtaining samples as a "fine art." She then said that you had to earn your contacts and respect from your online peers.
Before I read her comment, I knew of her. But after reading her comment, I didn't want to personally know her. Her comment wasn't even directed to me yet I got offended for the author of that article.
Let me tell you something: I do not care if you were the first official beauty blogger. It is not in good taste to belittle newer bloggers. Ever. If anything, she should have offered to write an article detailing the do's and don'ts of pitching if she had so much experience. If she found the article to be not to her liking, she shouldn't have commented. You may disagree but that's just the way I feel. She talks about earning the respect of the online community but yet she comes off as arrogant. That's not how you earn respect. "How ironic that bloggers who have been around much less have surpassed her in terms of traffic, readership and popularity?" Oh yeah, and they're humble.
So I found a more positive way to channel my disappointment: start a series for the beginning beauty blogger and here it is. I can document what I learned, neat sites and tools, etc. here. I'm happy that I had the courage to speak up. I'm also happy that I can now help other beginning beauty bloggers! If this appeals to you, tell me what you'd like to see so I'll have an idea of what to feature.
But before I go, I want to share Wendy Felton's "A Glossed Over Guide: Becoming a Big-Time Beauty Editor." This guide isn't meant to be taken seriously but it's entertaining. The whole site is entertaining in fact. I see it as a reminder to stay true to yourself and not be sucked in by the media.